Unless you are a nomad wandering the hills of Bhutan, you interface with people on a daily basis. Some of these interactions are close knit with your family. Some are more professional with your colleagues or clients in the workplace. Yet others are more impersonal, but still important (like allowing that car with a left turn signal to merge in front of you). All these scenes and the people that play a role in them affect our daily lives. Sometimes more significantly than we might think.
We all have visions of how we want our future to play out. We all have ideas, dreams to share with the world. Some of these plans, however, may be kept close to the vest because we are not sure if and how they will be accepted by those around us. The answer to propagating these grandiose schemes out to the world involve the people we choose to surround ourselves with, those same people that we interact with every day.
You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with. ~Jim Rohn
I have read several articles that reference this quote. Most have agreed that this may not be the best way to voice the intent behind it. By casting all responsibility for our being to the five people we choose to hang out with, we are discounting our own consciousness. Therefore, it is probably more beneficial to include your own self as one of those five people.
However, the spirit of this quote remains true. The person you become is heavily influenced by the people around you. And although it may be a bitter pill to swallow, we all have the freedom to choose who is in our circle, and who is not.
Each of us need people in our life that support the direction we choose to go as individuals. I don’t necessarily mean the “rah, rah, go get ’em tiger” type of support, although that never hurts 😉 I’m talking about standing beside a person who shares the same values as you, feeding off the energy created by a shared ambition, and propelling each other in a synergistic way beyond the sum of your dreams.
When you surround yourself with people who share the same ideals, principles, values, and ambitions, a coalescing bond forms creating strength and momentum towards the emergence of revolutionary ideas.
A few months ago, I received a request to help a friend with some computer problems. We hopped into his truck to head over to the local Starbucks for a Frappuccino and the complimentary Wi-Fi. I have a little secret I’d like to share with you, Frappucinos make every problem easier to solve. There you go, the secret to life wrapped up in a nice frozen blended beverage with whipped cream 🙂 As the engine turned over, the CD player kicked into action. “Have A Nice Day” by Bon Jovi was streaming from the speakers.
Every song I have ever liked has begun like a shallow relationship. I become infatuated with the tune, the beat, the sound produced by the song. Only after that initial stage wears off do I pay attention to the lyrics. There have probably been a million lyrically poetic songs that I have failed to include in my musical queue because of my musical shallowness. Note to self, change your listening habits 😉
It was on this day that I finally took notice of the words to this Bon Jovi song. My buddy, Jim, sitting next to me in the truck states “I know the words to hundreds of songs, but I can’t carry a tune in a bucket. When I sing in the shower, the shower turns off and tells me to get the heck out!”
Once I recovered from the ensuing laughter, I listened to the lyrics of the chorus more closely.
If there’s one thing I hang onto
That gets me through the night
I ain’t gonna do what I don’t want to
I’m gonna live my life
Shining like a diamond, rolling with the dice
Standing on the ledge, show the wind how to fly
When the world gets in my face
I say, have a nice day
~Jon Bon Jovi
Not everyone is going to agree with your approach to life. Some may be less civil than others in letting you know so. As long as your philosophy is aligned with the natural laws of the universe and your aim is to improve our existential experience, you don’t need the negative influences from these people. Let them go.
Sometimes you need to be a little stubborn, a little selfish. When you have an innovative idea that can positively impact the masses, you need to don your track shoes and run with it. If someone wants to call you crazy, politely smile, tell them to have a nice day, and carry on your way. You have the choice to surround yourself with people who will support your dreams and aspirations. If they aren’t supporting you, they’re keeping you from realizing the next great thing. Everything was impossible until somebody did it.
Find those that back you and spend more time with them. Tune the naysayers out. Shine like a diamond. Stand on that ledge, roll the dice, and show the wind just how much you know. Everyone’s a rock star in their own way. Rock on towards greatness.