Have a nice day

Have A Nice DayUnless you are a nomad wandering the hills of Bhutan, you interface with people on a daily basis. Some of these interactions are close knit with your family. Some are more professional with your colleagues or clients in the workplace. Yet others are more impersonal, but still important (like allowing that car with a left turn signal to merge in front of you). All these scenes and the people that play a role in them affect our daily lives. Sometimes more significantly than we might think.

We all have visions of how we want our future to play out. We all have ideas, dreams to share with the world. Some of these plans, however, may be kept close to the vest because we are not sure if and how they will be accepted by those around us. The answer to propagating these grandiose schemes out to the world involve the people we choose to surround ourselves with, those same people that we interact with every day.

You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with. ~Jim Rohn

I have read several articles that reference this quote. Most have agreed that this may not be the best way to voice the intent behind it. By casting all responsibility for our being to the five people we choose to hang out with, we are discounting our own consciousness. Therefore, it is probably more beneficial to include your own self as one of those five people.

However, the spirit of this quote remains true. The person you become is heavily influenced by the people around you. And although it may be a bitter pill to swallow, we all have the freedom to choose who is in our circle, and who is not.

Each of us need people in our life that support the direction we choose to go as individuals.Β I don’t necessarily mean the “rah, rah, go get ’em tiger”Β type of support, although that never hurts πŸ˜‰ I’m talking about standing beside a person who shares the same values as you, feeding off the energy created by a shared ambition, and propelling each other in a synergistic way beyond the sum of your dreams.

When you surround yourself with people who share the same ideals, principles, values, and ambitions, a coalescing bond forms creating strength and momentum towards the emergence of revolutionary ideas.

A few months ago, I received a request to help a friend with some computer problems. We hopped into his truck to head over to the local Starbucks for a Frappuccino and the complimentary Wi-Fi. I have a little secret I’d like to share with you, Frappucinos make every problem easier to solve. There you go, the secret to life wrapped up in a nice frozen blended beverage with whipped cream πŸ™‚ As the engine turned over, the CD player kicked into action. “Have A Nice Day” by Bon Jovi was streaming from the speakers.

Every song I have ever liked hasΒ begun like a shallow relationship. I become infatuated with the tune, the beat, the sound produced by the song. Only after that initial stage wears off do I pay attention to the lyrics. There have probably been a million lyrically poetic songs that I have failed to include in my musical queue because of my musical shallowness. Note to self, change your listening habits πŸ˜‰

It was on this day that I finally took notice of the words to this Bon Jovi song. My buddy, Jim, sitting next to me in the truck states “I know the words to hundreds of songs, but I can’t carry a tune in a bucket. When I sing in the shower, the shower turns off and tells me to get the heck out!”

Once I recovered from the ensuing laughter, I listened to the lyrics of the chorus more closely.

If there’s one thing I hang onto
That gets me through the night
I ain’t gonna do what I don’t want to
I’m gonna live my life

Shining like a diamond, rolling with the dice
Standing on the ledge, show the wind how to fly
When the world gets in my face
I say, have a nice day

~Jon Bon Jovi

Not everyone is going to agree with your approach to life. Some may be less civil than others in letting you know so. As long as your philosophy is aligned with the natural laws of the universe and your aim is to improve our existential experience, you don’t need the negative influences from these people. Let them go.

Sometimes you need to be a little stubborn, a little selfish. When you have an innovative idea that can positively impact the masses, you need to don your track shoes and run with it. If someone wants to call you crazy, politely smile, tell them to have a nice day, and carry on your way. You haveΒ the choice to surround yourself with people who will support your dreams and aspirations. If they aren’t supporting you, they’re keeping you from realizing the next great thing. Everything was impossible until somebody did it.

Find those that back you and spend more time with them. Tune the naysayers out. Shine like a diamond. Stand on that ledge, roll the dice, and show the wind just how much you know. Everyone’s a rock star in their own way. Rock on towards greatness.


18 thoughts on “Have a nice day

  1. Jennifer August 9, 2013 / 8:16 am

    I need to heed your words πŸ™‚ drop some baggage that is dragging me down so that I can finally fly πŸ™‚

    • davecenker August 9, 2013 / 8:30 am

      When I was driving home the other day, I heard this song on the radio and it just spoke to me for the first time. I really do need to listen to lyrics more often πŸ˜‰ By the way, in my eyes, you’re already flying. You may just be able to fly even higher πŸ™‚

  2. apartmentwife August 9, 2013 / 9:31 am

    i’d never heard that quote, but it’s a lot of fun to think about πŸ™‚ what if i spend 80% of my time with my husband? does the average still hold? or is it swayed toward the amount of time spent with the people? who do *you* spend most of your time with? oh dear… i think i feel a project coming on πŸ™‚

    • davecenker August 9, 2013 / 9:45 am

      As Captain Barbossa stated in Pirates of the Caribbean, it’s not such much of a rule as it is a guideline πŸ™‚

      Alas, my purpose has been served. I made you think πŸ˜‰ As always, thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts πŸ™‚

  3. Amy Lynne Hayes August 9, 2013 / 11:54 am

    Beautiful thoughts. It is very important to choose wisely when choosing your inner circle of friends and people around you – while you are ultimately responsible for your own direction, outlook, and estimation of self-worth, it certainly doesn’t help to have negative influences surrounding you that you must waste energy on to counteract! πŸ™‚

    • davecenker August 9, 2013 / 12:59 pm

      Exactly! That is such an awesome observation. You are still able to be yourself and choose your own direction with negative people around you. But, you expend so much energy doing so. That wasted energy may be better applied to more productive endeavors without those negative influences blocking your way. Thank you for your insightful comments πŸ™‚

  4. MRS N, the Author August 9, 2013 / 12:54 pm

    What a wonderful reminder to spread your wings and fly! I have to be honest here and tell you that I stopped surrounding myself with negative people years ago. It was a turning point in my life and I started the long process of healing. Their voices were in my head for a long time but eventually I silenced them.

    Thank you for sharing this with the world, Dave, as the world needs to hear this clear message!

    Oh, and have a nice day! πŸ˜‰

    • davecenker August 9, 2013 / 1:05 pm

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. So many times, you don’t realize how different things can be until those negative influences are no longer present. Kudos to you for silencing those voices and breaking free. Wishes for many nice days ahead πŸ˜‰

  5. MRS N, the Author August 9, 2013 / 12:55 pm

    Reblogged this on Princess of the Light: Shining the Light For All and commented:
    A wonder reminder to fill your circle of influence with people who will not bring you down but lift you up to the Heavens!!!!! πŸ™‚

    • davecenker August 9, 2013 / 1:11 pm

      Wow, my first ever re-blog … a day I will always remember πŸ˜‰ Thank you for sharing this message with your readers!

      • MRS N, the Author August 9, 2013 / 1:15 pm

        You’re most welcome! πŸ˜‰ It also went out in the Twitterverse to over 962 followers! πŸ™‚ MRS N

    • davecenker August 12, 2013 / 9:10 am

      Thanks for stopping by and providing feedback and I am happy that you enjoyed the post. Have an inspired day!

  6. Niki Richardson August 12, 2013 / 10:54 am

    He is my all time favorite rock star– someone who’s music I’ve loved for over two decades! I see him in concert every year and this year twice! Woot!!

    Take a listen to Its My Life, Because We Can, We weren’t born to follow– you’ll appreciate those lyrics too!

    • davecenker August 12, 2013 / 12:34 pm

      Funny you should mention those songs. I actually started listening more to the exact songs you had mentioned after composing this post. His song speak volumes about standing up for what you believe in.

      We missed Bon Jovi this year, but my wife and I have seen him over in Tampa the two previous years. They are like a fine wine, they just get better with age πŸ™‚

      • Niki Richardson August 13, 2013 / 2:17 am

        Totally agree!! Just hope he calls it quits before he looks like the Stones guys! πŸ˜‰

  7. Kat August 13, 2013 / 1:44 am

    Beautiful post and very true. As I read it I found myself smiling and thinking of the people in my life that inspire me onwards. I have this dear friend who is accepting, calm and oh so relaxed with life’s ups and downs; I long to become more that way and adore his company and energy. I am trying hard at the moment to let go of other peoples negative influences and when I find their negativity affecting me I imagine it as an unwanted gift and imagine letting them keep it rather than accepting it into me. ‘No thanks, I don’t want your present of your own anger and frustration’. πŸ˜‰ Have a wonderful day x

    • davecenker August 13, 2013 / 8:10 am

      Thank you for your thoughtful insights Kat. I love the visualization of being presented with an unwanted gift only to return it to the sender πŸ˜‰ Choice is a wonderful thing when we are able to harness the power of it in a positive way. Have an inspired day!

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